What’s Wrong With Botox For Mums?


“I can’t wait to see the results of what you do today! I’m sick of looking and feeling so tired” Claire said as she sat down and we began our consultation. “I haven’t told anyone I’m here though. My husband would go mad if he knew I was doing this but I really feel I deserve it”. Of course she deserves it. She’s a busy mum of two young children and balances this with a full-time marketing job in the City. She’s talking about having a Botox treatment though. Do you still think she should have it?

Claire’s consultation has begun in a way that many of mine do when I talk with my clients. There is a real sense of guilt and shame associated with having any of the injectable treatments that I offer. It’s also coupled with a sense of wanting to look and feel good though. Many of my clients are women who have always looked after themselves in the form of exercise, healthy eating as well as having regular hair treatments or similar. Often after having children though there is an abandonment of our former self and probably rightly so! But after that new mum haze has cleared and mums are considering returning to work or feeling a bit more human, there comes a feeling of “What on the earth happened to my former self?!”.

So I have begun to ask why we, as a society, feel such shame or fear in openly admitting to wanting or using Botox or fillers to help us look a little less tired. The use of injectables to help treat wrinkles and lines is a topic that causes huge debate and literally can divide a room. But whatever your thoughts on it, when used in the right hands, it can give some great, subtle refreshed results.
woman's eyeDo we blame our celebrity role models who relentlessly pursue youth to the detriment of actually looking real? Certainly Nicole Kidman’s unmoving forehead and Kylie Minogue’s over arched eyebrows have taken Botox into the realms of ridiculous. Lesley Ash’s tragic run in with some permanent face fillers and an associated allergy to the anaesthetic used resulted in some serious disfigurement.

Or does the problem start with us? Are we honestly expecting our partners to think this look comes without any help? Maybe we should stand up for ourselves and say “Actually I need a little help and in the scheme of keeping myself physically and mentally fit and well, this is one way I do it..”

We are talking about what are essentially medical procedures. My worry is that the associated stigma of having these done has driven an upsurge in illegal or badly done treatments. There has been a corresponding increase in the creation of online companies offering cheap treatments. Sadly, a few of my clients have suffered at the hands of a cheap Wowcher deal of lip fillers for £99. Needless to say the consequences are grave and can often result in me reversing the fillers they’ve had injected.

Aesthetics, until recently, has been a largely unregulated profession but bodies such as Save Face are driving a UK accreditation service. Professionals have to declare their qualifications, which are verified, and have regular site checks in order to stay listed. This year, the GMC have also offered guidance for doctors regarding the ethical stance they should offer clients when undertaking these treatments. I’d like to think, that by choosing a qualified professional, clients are having the very safest of procedures.

All of this said though is still a world away from this lady sitting in front of me. She’s in her late thirties and feels in need of a gentle, subtle refreshed look. She wants those friends and family who are quick to cast judgement on her having Botox to still look at her and say “Wow you look really well rested – have you had a facial or something?”, rather than the usual “Poor you, have the kids kept you up again?”. An interesting study reports a reduction in depression scores in individuals following Botox. This was thought to be related to the positive effects of looking in the mirror and not looking angry or worried.

mother and daughterWhatever society thinks, I can happily report that my clients love their refreshed look. They tell me how they feel much better about the person who looks back at them in the mirror. They enjoy the compliments they get about looking well rested and radiant. My clients leave feeling more positive about their experience and I have now taken to giving them a YesMum card. These positive affimation cards are the brainchild of the lovely, Dulwich-based Hollie Da Cruz, who runs the London Hypnobirthing Clinic. She originally created them for postnatal mums as a little reminder of what a good job they were doing. My mums love receiving these little notes that act as a reminder that they are at the centre of their family. By feeling and looking good about themselves, they actually positively reinforce their family connections.

One of my clients asked me what she should say to her daughter about what she was having done. She was worried about the message she was giving out to her little girl. I said that maybe she should consider the fact that her daughter had a mother who valued herself enough to have a treatment done that made her feel good about herself. That she was important enough to take 45 minutes out of her day to put herself first. In my opinion that has to be a positive thing.

Dr Mayoni Gooneratne is a medical graduate of St George’s Hospital Medical School in London. She received her membership of the Royal College of Surgeons in London in 2002. She has pursued her career in General Surgery and worked in numerous hospitals across London and Essex as part of her training.  In addition, Mayoni has developed an interest in aesthetic medicine and undertaken extensive training. Being a busy mother of 3 young children herself, she understands how important it is to have a little space and time to look after yourself. Looking and feeling your best have profound effects on your self-esteem and confidence. She is passionate about her clients feeling better about themselves and prides herself on instilling a sense of trust and creating a special bond with her clients. Get in touch for a no-obligation consultation! www.drmayoni.co.uk [email protected] FB Dr Mayoni Instagram @Dr_Mayoni Twitter @drmayoni_clinic M: 07956 517021


  1. I think its alright to want to do this – I’m getting it done for my 40th next year. I’m just not ready to look 40 – I’ve never been OK about getting old and I don’t see why we can’t spend a bit of time on money on ourselves, to help feel that wee bit better about the tired face we see in the mirror. I say go for it, who cares what others think – each to their own and all that!