Why I Started MGF: Loneliness.



This. This video is the entire reason I started Mummy’s Gin Fund 3 years ago. I had suffered horrible PND after the birth of my first daughter, who was 5. My second daughter was 3 and I was still painfully scarred by her prematurity and all the trauma of having a baby taken away to NICU at birth and my third baby, a much wanted son had just been born.

Despite the joy of the birth of my newest baby, I was still so acutely aware of the total, absolute and devastating loneliness I felt when my second baby was in NICU and I was at home. Leaving a baby alone in hospital, whilst you drive home in a car with an empty baby seat is something I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

I distinctly remember, standing in the middle of the local park, and the whole world spinning. My eldest was with her grandparents, my husband had gone back to work because ‘it wasn’t worth having paternity leave without a baby’ and I was totally, utterly alone. Like, totally, utterly alone.

No-one quite knows what to do with you when you have had a baby but the baby isn’t with you. People would stop me in the street, ask how I was, notice my bump had gone, have a panicked look for the pram and then look at the floor. I found myself explaining where she was 20 times a day. Everyone asked when she was coming home. I had to say I wasn’t sure if she would. It was horrific.

And I was lonely. So, so lonely. I had people around me all the time but no-one else knew how it felt to sit up in the middle of the night, in an empty nursery, expressing milk for a baby that you’d never even touched.

I felt totally alone.

And that’s why I started MGF. So no woman would ever feel how I felt. Not on my patch. And it’s working. Slowly but surely, MGF is making a real difference in the life of local mums and dads. Meet and Treat saw over 400 local parents come together to share a cuppa and give a gift to other families in need. Over 2000 people took part in #knowvember – a month of face to face activities designed to reduce isolation.

Please, come and join us. Use our website, read our blogs, share our posts, come to our events, join our Facebook group.

Join our anti-loneliness revolution!




(ps – if your baby is born poorly, early or small, I highly recommend Bliss. There’s no need to feel alone.)


Founder of MGF, Helen is a mum of four who spends way too much time on the interweb and not enough time in bed. She loves wearing her dressing gown, car boot sales and watching TV programmes featuring food. Her specialist subjects include 'how to overfill your car boot' and 'how to avoid dusting'. Follow her at Twitter: @Ginfund, Facebook: @MGFund, Instagram: @mummysginfund and online: www.mummysginfund.co.uk.